would you marry a girl who slept around

She is the exact opposite of what my current girlfriend is. And some women need to go through experiences to become the best women they could be. "If you are prepared to be the man she needs and you have a genuine connection with her, then all that other stuff really does not matter." So its reasonable to treat number of partners as risk factor it seems. The Student Room and The Uni Guide are both part of The Student Room Group. I would just say that the specific number wasnt the real issue in your case. And if you married in your 30's so much for having a family. So to simply go off of the number is in my opinion a misguided approach to understanding the person you are dealing with. Tighter in actuality isnt always better. Its so they wont feel so bad about what they consider negatives about themselves or to justify them staying with someone who is totally wrong for them. A dream. Fast forward to today, now you have a bunch of people who get married without knowing who they are, what they want, and who they think they deserve. low tiers don't even exist in their world they are completely invisible and when they are forced to notice our existence they don't see us as human they se us as inanimate objects to just deal with and make go away asap they know nothing about what the life of a man is like, This is why they say shit like "why are you guys so upset just use tinder to get threesomes every weekend what's wrong teehee" because every guy who exist in theyre world can do stuff like that. ! No, it was because you can just tell a person who has had a lot of sexual partners. on the lookout for new sex partners, because they dont value physical No track record of long-term relationships, combined with promiscuous behaviour, is always a bad sign, regardless of philosophy. And know that there will be days your not overwhelmed in thought. I dont think we should judge a person based on that. number is half your age. The whole premise of this article is misguided. So having lots of casual sex it a good indicator that a woman has emotional problems. Also many people dont realize there are tips for men who are not well endowed to still be able to bring a lot of pleasure to their wives. No, my perceptions are no more divorced from reality than yours, or those of anyone else. Any woman who behaves this way doesnt deserve commitment from me or any other man. I dont think that women should be labeled as whores, hoes, or sluts simply based on a number. I personally struggle with this issue my current girlfriend has had about 3 times more partners than me, shes had a few one-nights stands and a few friends with benefits. Its a reality of biology. Ive read about a porn star named Shelly Lubben that got married and stay married. See, I can understand a man deciding not to be with that woman because their views and values dont line up. Some women can be a virgin and have all kinds of issues due to other experiences in their life, while a woman may have once been promiscuous, turned away from that and now is in a much better place mentally and emotionally. Oh you left them because of that? Employers, colleges, every institution we have asks about past because it matters. A woman did not write this, this was written by a man. I understand a lot of what you are saying, but the main thing to remember is not to judge someone on their past. If I was looking for a Woman, I DO care about her past, and she should care about mines. I disagree with you. All statistics show that, you instinctual disgust by it is natural because only guys that avoided dirty women like that managed not to be cucked and got to reproduce, science just confirmed what we knew long ago 19 is so, so young. We all make judgments all the time. To be completely honest, I would not have been bothered if all 15 men before me were past relationships. Thats a nice, positive thought. Shouldnt matter how many people your future partner slept with? Stop with the STD guise it is about an Regardless of what it was, it shouldnt matter. The choices a person makes in life reflect upon that individuals character, and /everything/ is in the past, once the moment passes, so yes, how many people someone chooses to give their body to, and under what circumstances, certainly reflects upon that individual. FACEBOOK is a trademark of FaceBook INC. Stephan Speaks | All Rights Reserved 2020. If you find someone youre into, thats all that matters. Modern women are told a lot of strange things, like sex doesn't matter and that men are somewhat entitled to fuck them. I love people who stand their ground and see things in black and white, right and wronglife is easiest for them. them based on the fact she considers him to be the worthy one if you will. if you take responsibility for your actions and see that it hurts your lover So take a second and ask yourself why it matters. It doesnt really save more hearts and feelings, it just postpones the pain. and who or what is the judge of what bettering yourself even is? Because they are unable to control their own desires, delayed gratification is a component of intelligence and success. Most men can understand a mistake or two, and possibly some bad boyfriends. hint 3: even from the most selfish perspective, the women you degrade as "sluts" are fun. Choices are Dude, you better check yourself before you mess yourself! Yet a man can have sex with 50 women and ejaculate in all of them and expect at least 50 lives in a year and knows damn well hes the father backed by 50 women also saying so! Nobody wants to end up with the town whore who every guy has ridden. Judging someone for their actions in their past have no bearing on the type of person they or now. How many men a female has slept matters because: Thing is, a mistake can cost you plenty in life jobs being one of them. People please keep in mind, God made Average for a reason. As a GF or a FB, then men dont care what her count is. 1. Nobody is talking about women who are prudish or disinterested in sex. I sell hairs now. My life was so hard because of my sexual freedom so I want her life to be much easier than mine and easier would be for me to teach her to not express her sexuality and to just hold out as long as possible. Would you REALLY want to buy that car after you heard that? The man is going to think that the woman might not Not much wife material out there. If a woman is still behaving in a way you dont agree with then by all means keep it moving. They would always want to be with me even not wanting sex. Past DOES matter. God created us all to make mistakes and learn from those mistakes to become better people. The only problem with yr case is you did what you did. We women are more than what is between our legs. Women lie period. that will always be what it is and now you know it is most likely to be a There are women who have been with very few men and still experience the same issues. I dont even make eye contact with other men. There are many women who dont give it up and are still disrespected by men they go out on dates with, even if they look good on paper. They need to evaluate if this man is worthy, if he will stick around, if he will man up and assist her in raising the child or at the very least pay child support. Thank you for your writing this article. Bottom line though? Some may just love sex and wanted to explore. This function is innate to humans and does not become desensitized. One wished the best for me. Hey Natasha : ). I will say that we all are entitled to our own opinions, but when those opinions are based in judgment and primitive prehistoric double standards, that makes your opinion INVALID. She is still fully capable of satisfying a man and fulfilling his needs.by the way, I would love for you to post your comment on the blog itself : ) let people see other perspectives. Women can sleep with men to get what they want and then dump them. has slept with 4 guys or 20? She can probably just walk up to a man and say Wanna fuck me? and the first man she approaches will say yes (or at least one in the first three men). The emotional component I can build well in a live- in arrangement, before we finally settle down. In a loving relationship, no divorce (or marriage) will ever be based on financial reasons. Plenty of respectable women do not live their youths as sluts, and it is THESE women who deserve our time, investment, and energies; not the sluts. Well at least the second one could get justified by necessity Would you marry a prostitute? So shes had a lot of partners at the same time in the past- if everyone in the situation knew what was up (that there was no expectation of monogamy), then theres no harm to it! During one of those sex talks, it was revealed that she had been with TWO GUYS at one time for a total of three encounters (about a month before we met). ', This affirms the theory that women only see high tier males. It If a woman comes to you and displays all the attributes you look for in a woman. People that respect their bodies have healthy relationships, not hookups at the club every other week. And guess what, people arent always completely open and honest or even aware of who they really are when they are beginning to date someone. People are simply not willing to marry unless the person they are marrying is compatible. Its not like they grew up thinking they will screw as many guys as they can, get married, and live happily ever after. Sleeping with a lot of people says something about ones character. I think you deserve to know the truth. First let me say that I really like the advice that you post even though I occasionally disagree with your views, the vast majority of the time (92-97%) I feel that your advice perfectly sums up the solution that is going to bring about the best results. I am hopefull Sex isnt an act that comes with an inherent morality- the ethical implications of sex all depend on the context. I know it would be for me. Do you know women feel the same about men sometimes. Only 2 of them were and the other 13 just encounters. Hell, 2 girls ASKED HIM for a 3some. Im logical, confident, and independent. I think it would be best for everybody to wait or minimize how many people they have sex with, but that does not change the fact that we should not judge a woman based on her past. You also realize that if it doesnt work out, you leave with the same past I understand more and more why God restricted it to marriage. I firmly believe that the more people that you date, the harder that it will be to find love. of life (high school/college) and people seem to not care as much as they get Awesome! Yes, there's a big difference. I have a BUNCH to say, but first lets address the wear and tear issue, it obviously has some relevance physically, but I would say it is mostly mentally destructive. There is so much more to point too that have a greater impact on a failing marriage. Rich, sexual prowess and even sexual organ size I think that this is a very mature way to look at the reality in which we live. Actually, the vagina does not get loose. You are not. Lil Joe Norman. Not truly. It is perfectly fair to judge someone based on the choices they make. As of today a lot of women in late teens and 20's are in a "hoe stroll" and this article in just another trash it makes them have a reason / justifying their action. Even though maybe I shouldnt call them ignorant since I dont know them but in my opinion everyone is ignorant in some type of way. The girl you date shows her cleavage all the time. No problem. So it's not like they are doomed to never find a quality relationship. Dont allow the negative thoughts to hinder your relationship or your overall quality of life. But hey, it is what it is. You will marry a handsome pediatrician! This continued for 9 years or sountil one night having dinner with colleagues and i mentioned that i knew a lady that worked at a department store and she could get a discount for some one at the table.I was torn to pieces in front of everyone and humiliated! I encourage you remain faithful as long as your in any relationship. Please tell me what has changed at that point. The woman you marry is more modest because she knows her attributes are for your eyes only. What I noticed about these two women as well as my female friends and colleagues is that women who have had a large number of sexual partners often have different values and a different outlook onrelationship behaviorthan those that have not. And while I was confident she would never cheat on me, it still bothered me that she let that many men use her that way before me. And Im not certain what state your from but getting divorced is not easy. What matters in the end is if they are a genuinely good person or if they at least have good intentions. So when u have kids a small part of another mans DNA is in your kids. If you are not compatible in how you view the world and along with many other views you may not be good together. Shadow Hunter-Is a depressed life worth living. So not every loose girl is just doing it for fun. Its all psychology. Hm why is it that a woman can have sex with 50 men and have all of them ejaculate in her and expect possibly only 1 life in the world in a year AND NOT KNOW WHO THE FATHER IS! Also, I do not believe in the double standard! Studs work for every notch in there belt. Embrace who she is today and enjoy it. The article is discussing why the specific number should not matter when a man is choosing his partner and the fact that the woman she is today is not always the same woman she once was. But also it could be my way of redirecting these thoughts gently as you've put it. Apparently he is still not over his Ex and he never will be. Excellent. There is a double standard and its not going away any time soon. Interesting. You have many women who feel they should not have to spell out those needs, and you have many men who assume if she hasnt specifically said it then there is nothing they may be overlooking. Oh sure, I agree. is out of sync with reality(and they are becoming increasingly aware Yes, men are allowed to sleep with married women but women cant do the same with men. of your own lifestyle before you start handing out nasty questions or comments such as the one above. And, what does your sex life say about your character? A person exposing the number of past partners has nothing to do with the present moments situation.. Which is why so many will lie about there number. I really do agree that the double standard about sex partners is ridiculous. up a****le (Jerkwhatever feels right at the time. What an a**! would sleep with them while single. It's more likely that my comments are going to garner negativity but I think it's good to have a healthy view on such things. You say we shouldnt judge someone on their past? Honestly what you are saying has a lot of truth to it, and that is one of my points. And women who have slept with a lot of men are simply less likely to be deemed compatible as marriage-material. love you back! Some women can have a very low number and be as emotionally damages (if not more) then other women with a much higher number. He willingly suffered and took our punishment for our sin upon Himself. But then I brought the conversation back to the fast girls. Exactly, the past should only be used as a way to better understand who that person has been and who they have become. Good luck!! Hell to some if you arent a virgin you are a whore. Im a small endowed male. Why cant we they have their cake and eat it too? but not an automatic deal-breaker. It makes it an issue when she has slept with 50 plus guys and the male only a handful. In fact, I see more women who regret marrying young than I see women regret marrying in their 30s. I DO NOT THINK ITS RIGHT for men to sleep around but IT IS NOT MEANT for women tonot even nature exudes such behavior! She's also in an art related major and I've always been drawn to girls who are artistic or creative even if I'm not entirely like that. that it is fine to date a slut but I just want some fucking piece of hope cause I don't want to drop this shit as I really like her. Its only because it does matter to us that we may not want But if you have hard limits, dont go past them for anyone. I dont know what planet you come from but aint no way a man would want to wife a woman who has slept with every man in town. Though there may be a difference in how/what constitutes standard for the individual. No MAN of Real Men is going to stomach that the woman he plans to be with for the rest of his life has went down on XXX number of men (with her stretched mouth and swollen mouth/lips from all that sucking) and beat up, dried out, damaged vagina from all the banging: Hes a fool if he makes no judgment and a trick at best!!! 0. Its not a mutually exclusive proposition Paola. A girl that has been around the block is going to have a much harder time finding a man to agree to spend the rest of his life with her. Typically, people do not cheat simply because they are accustomed to being promiscuous (or have been in the past). Not always, but often. too many people: Remember that there is a good chance your lover feels guilty Sheila Saeung Jesus was a trouble maker, who got what he deserved. No, it can most certainly simply be about the actual number. She informed methat she had sex with over 30 men. The first was with a woman who had lost her virginity to her bf not long before we got together. I think a long period of live-in followed by a late marriage (girl around 32) would be effective insurance against separation in the future. I understand that, that may have not been what you were implying but the implication is there. would you not prefer to be judged on who you are as a man today, or should any perceived mistakes you made in the past always be held over your head? She is 30. Men like to know what theyre investing in is rare. A popular theory in psychology from Freud suggests that men want to marry a woman similar or better than their own mothers, same goes for women and their fathers. Either your a virgin and done sucked so many dicks or your not a virgin and hjad sex with alot of people. I think Id have to agree with Sharona. I said it to get people to understand this isnt about having the women go out there and have sex with whoever they want. 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